Getting It On With Moving On
March 9th is National Get Over it Day. Everyone is encouraged to self-reflect and move on from
whatever is bogging us down. Of course, we do not have to wait for that day to come, before
reflecting and taking positive action. Yet it could be a much-needed spur. The beauty of aiming to Get Over It on one particular day though, is we pay attention and empathize with each other. We might also have more awareness and self-compassion. When you're in Stuck Soup, the synergy created between us can help you swim to safety or propel yourself out. Together, whether in person or not, you can find the Oomph you need to resolve ToBeDoneWithItAlready.
Before moving on, sometimes you need to deal with your screw-ups first: releasing them, letting them go, and lightening your load. If that means making amends in order to Get Over It, there is a religious role model in the form of Yom Kippur. Many Jewish people have observed this religious holiday, known as the Day of Atonement, observed with fasting and prayer. People in Alcoholics Anonymous also work on it as their motto says: “Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” Every time you learn from a mistake and take responsibility, you have an opportunity to move beyond it.
We can also get over other difficult situations: such as not being allowed to work remotely anymore, losing our childcare provider, arguing with our spouse, or moving on from our break-up with someone we loved. In these situations, it may help to...
• Know Your Triggers
• Breathe! Take time To Relax
• Reflect About What Happened from different points of view and learn from it
• Take responsibility and make amends; sometimes that means self-compassion
• Journal, write a poem, make art, or listen to a song that helps you dispel or rechannel your feelings from the past
• Give yourself the time and silence needed for healing
• Use the Give-For technique taught in The Prosperos, which restores the wholeness of healing, in place of blame, while going beyond forgiveness.
• Know this: If you have been depressed for quite a while, and especially if you have suicidal feelings, ignore anyone saying "Just Get Over It ." They are very much mistaken. Instead, seek a doctor and a counselor skilled in this area.
In 2005 no one was telling Jeff Goldblatt to Get Over It; he told himself. He was the guy who started National Get Over It Day. He did it because of his painful feelings about a failed
romance. The result? He wrote a poem, created a Declaration of Intent, and started a website to launch this day. Even he might be surprised by how much it has expanded over the years.
Sometimes we just need to get over the small things, like hanging onto a cold for weeks or a long slow traffic commute. If you can start seeing the humor in little things that bug you, use #NationalGetOverItDay to post on social media. Why wait for a comedian on TV to bring them up before laughing at them, and yourself? Laughing at our foibles is one of the best ways to free ourselves.
When I found out about National Get Over it Day, I thought "AHA! Just what I need.
I felt disappointed because my partner does not like to cook or dance. Those are two of my favorite things. Since he never did like to cook or dance and is not willing to change, this is the "It" I plan to Get Over It on March 9th. I'm already moving on while thinking about it and feeling my love for him in this moment.